On October 5th, 2015, I wrote an article about being a virgin in college. The article was about the pro’s and con’s of still having that special something that only deserves to be given to someone special, while being in an environment that seemed to be surrounded by a hook-up culture. Then, on December 2nd, 2016, I could no longer relate to a woman who still had her innocence.
It happened. Something that seemed like it was never going to happen, happened. Was it what I expected? Was it what I had imagined it being like? Of course not lol. Unfortunately, I no longer speak to the guy and at first I was sad about it, but now I know that’s life sometimes and it’s okay. Certain people come into your life for a reason, and i believe he’s one of them. There was a lesson I needed to learn and today, a year later, I think I’ve figured it out. That lesson is, the expectations you have for people and situations are not always met, but if they aren’t met, it’s because they were never meant to be. I had longed for a significant other and when I thought I had one, God fixed me up and showed me that what I wanted was attainable, but that just wasn’t the time for it.
This last year has been a rollercoaster to say the least. A year ago I changed for what I once thought was the worse, but now I know it’s for the better. I’ve grown so much since December 2nd, 2016 y’all would not believe. I’m a lot stronger, a lot less naive, but also, a lot more accepting of my flaws. I had to be comfortable with myself in order to be comfortable with someone else and I was... but there’s a higher level of comfort that I’m working on achieving everyday.
This isn’t a post to bash the person because trust I’m his biggest cheerleader regardless, but I wanted to share with y’all my truth and how I’ve been able to reclaim my glow. Life is a journey that constantly changes and situations that we never thought we’d be prepared for may arise, but I know that if God brings you to it, he’ll bring you through it.