New to You: A Makeup Product Guide for Beginners

So, as you all may know, me and makeup are like peanut butter and jelly, we just go together! Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of questions on products I use or recommendations I may have for someone who’s just getting into makeup. Well, have no fear, because your guide is finally here! Below, I will list products and brands that are great for beginners, or even someone wanting to try new products!

Before you dive into makeup, PLEASE make sure you’re aware of your skin type. If you’re more dry, use products with dewy finishes. If you’re more oily, use products with matte finishes. 

  1. Brows: if you’ve never filled in your brows before, I’d suggest starting with a pencil. Honestly, my first pencil was from the Beauty supply store and it was maybe $1. When using a pencil, or any eyebrow product, use light strokes because you don’t want your brows to look too dark or harsh. 
  2. Eyeshadow: Now, I understand eyeshadow can be a little intimidating, but it’s so fun! I’d suggest getting a palette that has an equal amount of neutral colors and fun colors. My go to palette is the bh cosmetics 2nd edition 120 color palette. Bh is a super affordable brand that can be bought online or even found in TJ Maxx!
  3. Mascara: so if you’re like me, lashes just aren’t your thing which is perfectly fine because if you put on enough mascara, people will ask you if your lashes are real. My top 2 faves are Too Faced “Better than Sex” mascara and Benefit’s “They’re real!” mascara. I usually get waterproof mascara because I’m super teary and my eyes water very easily.  
  4. Primer: Primer is the single handed most important step in the makeup process. Primer is what makes your beat last and depending on your type of skin, it’ll reduce pores, reduce shine, or give a healthy glow. I’ve been using Benefit Cosmetics porefessional primer. It reduces the sight of pores and also cancels out any oiliness. I also love the smash box photo finish primer and nyx primer. Both primers have about 4 different types so it’s easier for myltiplexskin types.
  5. Foundation: I stan Rihanna and I am not ashamed ok! The Fenty Beauty Pro Filt’r soft matte foundation is my jam like I am obsessed! It’s more of a medium coverage foundation and it’s definitely buildable so if you like more full coverage this is an option as well. It is a matte finish so if the skin gets more dry than oily, I wouldn’t recommend. Maybelline’s true match foundation is a great affordable foundation that not only comes in a matte finish, but also dewy. You can find this at your local Walgreens, cvs, or even ulta. If you’re not into liquid and would rather have a cream foundation, Anastasia Beverly Hills has an amazing stick foundation. It’s around $25 which is a great price for a brand that is sold in department stores. It is a matte finish as well so if you’re dryer, but still want to try it, make sure your primer and setting spray are dewy.
  6. Concealer: Ok so concealer is important because it... well conceals lol. I’d say it’s crucial to have 3 shades of concealers: one your skin tone, one that is 1-2 shades lighter for highlighting your t-zone and brows, and one 1-2 shades darker for contouring. I highly recommend Colourpop Cosmetics’ no filter concealer. They’re super creamy and I’ve never had a problem with creasing. Although the brand has recently expanded into being offered at Sephora, the concealers can be found on Colourpop’s website. 
  7. Face Powder/ Baking Powder: setting your face helps with making sure your makeup stays in place, as well as decreasing the appearance of oil. Also, some people prefer powder foundation over liquid foundation. Ive been using my handy dandy Mac Studio Fix Powder in the shade NW 43 for yearssssss! Honestly this was my go to I just started using liquid foundation about 4 years ago. For setting my highlight, I’ve been using the Laura Mercier translucent loose setting powder and chile it is BOMB. It’s a little pricy, but it’s work it not even gonna lie. Before that, I used the infamous Ben Nye banana powder which is also amazing and more affordable. It also lasts a really long time so you won’t have to worry about constantly purchasing. 
  8. Highlight: who doesn’t want to glow?! Colourpop’s highlighters are A1 and super affordable. My favorite shades are “Electric slide,” “wisp,” and “churro.” But, the highligher that currently has my heart would have to be Maybelline’s master chrome metallic highlighter. When I tell you the glow is REAL. Another thing I do to get a good glow is apply an illuminator to my t-zone pre-foundation. My favorites have been Fenty Beauty’s match stick in the shade “Rum,” and Nyx’s born to glow liquid illuminator in the shades “sun goddess” and “pure gold.” Sometimes, when I don’t feel like wearing makeup, I just use illuminator, mascara, and gloss for a healthy glow. 
  9. Setting Spray:  This is the key to locking Inc that beat you just worked so hard for. This is the key to making sure you look like how you left honestly. I’ve been using Nyx’s matte finish setting spray for YEARS and I have never had an issue. There’s also a dewy finish spray so if you like the dewy look over the matte look, the have you covered.
  10. Lips: When starting out up lipsticks, it’s impkrtant to start with brands that have a variety of shades and finishes social you can’t try multiple things. I highly recommend Nyx and colourpop. Not only are both brands super affordable, but they have glosses, satins, matte’s, and a rainbow of colors Tovonnia choose from.

Well, there you have it. I’ve personally used all of the products listed and I can’t honestly say I have no complaints. I pray this guide helps someone start there makeup journey or get back into a journey that might’ve ended suddenly. Always remember, makeup is supposed to be fun and expressive, so don’t be afraid to try new techniques and wear COLOR!

Sincerely, 

That Sydney  

A Year To Grow

On October 5th, 2015, I wrote an article about being a virgin in college. The article was about the pro’s and con’s of still having that special something that only deserves to be given to someone special, while being in an environment that seemed to be surrounded by a hook-up culture. Then, on December 2nd, 2016, I could no longer relate to a woman who still had her innocence.

It happened. Something that seemed like it was never going to happen, happened.  Was it what I expected? Was it what I had imagined it being like? Of course not lol. Unfortunately, I no longer speak to the guy and at first I was sad about it, but now I know that’s life sometimes and it’s okay. Certain people come into your life for a reason, and i believe he’s one of them. There was a lesson I needed to learn and today, a year later, I think I’ve figured it out. That lesson is, the expectations you have for people and situations are not always met, but if they aren’t met, it’s because they were never meant to be. I had longed for a significant other and when I thought I had one, God fixed me up and showed me that what I wanted was attainable, but that just wasn’t the time for it. 

This last year has been a rollercoaster to say the least. A year ago I changed for what I once thought was the worse, but now I know it’s for the better. I’ve grown so much since December 2nd, 2016 y’all would not believe. I’m a lot stronger, a lot less naive, but also, a lot more accepting of my flaws. I had to be comfortable with myself in order to be comfortable with someone else and I was... but there’s a higher level of comfort that I’m working on achieving everyday.

This isn’t a post to bash the person because trust I’m his biggest cheerleader regardless, but I wanted to share with y’all my truth and how I’ve been able to reclaim my glow. Life is a journey that constantly changes and situations that we never thought we’d be prepared for may arise, but I know that if God brings you to it, he’ll bring you through it.

Sincerely, 

That Sydney  

Top 5 Places I Love to Shop

As a plus sized woman, it has always been hard to shop. The stores you want to shop at don’t have your size, and the stores that do have your size look like old lady clothes. Like come on! I know I’m big, but damn that doesn’t mean I want to wear tunics and leggings everyday. I like ripped jeans, I like an occasional crop top, and I like to show off my  curves. So, I’m about to put y’all on game, because I get a lot of questions on where I shop. So here are my favorite stores, in no particular order.

  1. Forever 21: I’ve probably been shopping here for the longest. In March of 2009, they released their Faith 21 line that was exclusively extended sizes. Since then, the name has changed and the brand has expanded. They offer a variety of clothing that is young and fresh, as well as inexpensive. 
  2. Old Navy: People are so sleep on Old Navy! Fun fact: Old Navy is owned by Gap, so Old Navy jeans are the same quality as Gap, but about half the price. They have the BEST sales, especially around the holidays. If you can’t find your size in the store, plus sizes are also available online!
  3. Fashion Nova: So I’m not gonna lie, I was very sleep on fashionnova when I first heard about it, but when I actually checked the site I was impressed. I personally order a size up just to make sure because the clothes run slightly small in my opinion. Also, you gotta make sure you wear the clothes, don’t let them wear you because if so, you’ll end up looking like everybody else. 
  4. Boohoo: Since I’ve been shopping for myself, online shopping has been my go to. I discovered boohoo about 3 years ago and trust me I was shook. It’s a U.K. based brand that has everything from bathing suits, to dresses, to jeans, to accessories, etc. They not only offer a student discount, but there’s usually always a sale from 40%-70% off. The only downside about boohoo is that they take forever to ship so if you need something fast, this isn’t the site to shop at. I suggest ordering a size up because the clothes do run small. 
  5. ASOS: ASOS is bomb ok bomb!!! I personally like to get my pop out pieces (i.e. jumpsuits, dresses, streetwear, etc.) from here. They offer a student discount and no taxes so I’m here for it all! Also, if you’re not sure about your size, they have a tool where you can fill in your usual sizes, as well as bra size and how you like your clothes to fit and it will suggest tO you the best size for whatever you’re shopping for!  

 

So there you have it. That’s where the majority of my pieces come from. I hope that this article is beneficial to somebody who struggles with shopping just like I have in the past, and I can’t wait to see your looks! 

Sincerely, 

That Sydney  

Broken Hoetation Part. 2

So, if you read Part 1, I said I’d be back in 2018 with the summary, but homecoming just passed and the people wanna know “Was the homecoming phase activated?” Well guys, the answer is... Hell to the nah nah, to the nah nah nah, hell the nah! Y’all knew better like this is ME we’re talking about. 

Did I have options? Of course I did.  You’re always gonna have options whether it be somebody you want or not. But, me being me, you can slide in my dm’s if you want, but shit still won’t pop. We’re not about to link just because you liked 5 of my pics on Instagram playa, you gotta come harder than that lol. I respect anybody that can tap into their hoe phase, I low key envy y’all. But I, Sydney Tyler Coffee, need some type of strings attached. I can’t do the hook up and pass by each other like nothing happened that’s just not my ministry lol. 

Honestly, my hoe phase isn’t broken... it’s just nonexistent and I’m perfectly okay with that. Prayerfully, the next man I decide to  bless  with my love will be worth it, and if not, well that’s just another lesson in this game called life. Until then...  I’ll continue to fall in love with myself, because I’m actually bomb af.

Sincerely, 

That Sydney  

 

Broken Hoetation

Do y'all know how hard it is to have a hoetation without having any hoes? Like, that's involuntary celibacy. You finally get to the point where you're over the past bs and you're ready to go out and live life, but the dm's are dry, phone is on silent, and there's more swipes to the left than to the right on tinder.

All those fish in the sea everybody speaks of seem to have migrated. Ain't no cuffing season bihh... well, at least, not for you. Literally y'all, i can't help but think, "Am I ugly?" "Is my swag off?" "Do I look like a nigga with my short hair?" "Is it because I'm big?" I'm just trying to get my Issa Rae on, but it's hard out here for a pimp. I'm not even a "no strings attached" type of girl, but it's been too long and I need some love and affection (Future voice).  

Honestly, y'all know I like to go out and meet people. I'll talk to anybody I'm a friendly person, but I also am very old fashioned like if I shoot my shot first, oh bro you special. I also don't wanna start my hoe phase in a bar or lounge because those are grown men, I'm still a baby lol. Who knows, maybe I'm not meant to have a hoe phase? Or, maybe I have to wait until homecoming like everybody else? I don't know truly. Guess I'll be back in 2018 to give y'all the summary. 

Sincerely, 

That Sydney  

 

Live Your Best Life!

 

Since graduating college this past May, I've gotten a lot of messages saying I look happy and how my post grad life looks "lit." Although a majority of my time is spent at work, I am doing something different. What am I doing you ask? Well, it's simple. I'm practicing the art of living my best life. If there's a concert I want to go to, I'm going! That trip I've been dying to take, I'm planning it! I'm 22 and honestly too damn young to be wasting my life away.

Often times, I feel like a lot of us are afraid to go out and do the things we want. It may be because the funds are low, you can't find anybody else to experience it with you, or you're just nervous in general. Well guess what? Save those coins! If there's something you really want to do or go try, make the means available. If nobody else wants to go, go by yourself! Take yourself on a date, get to know yourself, spend some time enjoying yourself because at the end of the day, guess who's going to be there, YOU! And as far as being nervous, take that leap of faith! You don't want to spend your life wondering "what if," do you? Besides, It is better to regret the things you did instead of the things you did not do. 

Before I graduated, I was scared for what was going to happen. I did not have a set plan, but I knew I wanted to be happy, that's it. I wanted to be happy with the people I let into my life, happy with the decisions I make, and happy with the places I go. So far, Life is great. Is it perfect? Definitely not! But, am I happy? Yes! I'm happy with everything that is coming my way, because these are the things that are shaping my life into the best life.

Sincerely, 

That Sydney

 

Self Love, Self Love, Self Love.

   In my 22 years of life, I never truly practiced self love until about a month ago. What a lot of people don't know is, I became depressed at the end of 2016. I had been through a couple of life changes and I was honestly lost. So lost, that I cut all of my hair off looking for a temporary solution to a problem I wasn't even aware I had yet. I covered up my depression with partying, meanwhile there was homework I was not doing, articles that never got written, and events I never attended. Instead, I was at Spin every Thursday indulging in $2 drinks, passed out on the beach during Spring Break, front row at every probate, and spending money that I did not have. I had lost myself. As I woke up every morning to do my makeup, I no longer knew who I was. I was broken, lifeless, and I honestly had no love for Sydney Coffee.

   As graduation quickly approached, I didn't even know if I was walking across the stage with my class because I decided to no longer give a damn about my work. I also did not know what I was going to do next. Like yeah, I was getting a degree, but what am I about to do with it? After a lot of praying, a lot of crying (which I don't do), and some self motivation, I realized I needed to stop focusing on everything else and take care of ME. Within a couple of weeks, I managed to catch up enough on my school work to graduate (AMEN!) and secure my Summer job at home. I was not in the place I wanted to be, but it was a better place then where I was. 

   By the start of June, I decided to take some new steps in my self love journey. I blocked a couple of people, not because I was angry, but because I needed a break from seeing their names pop up in my notifications. I also finished a grad school application, started taking better care of my skin and hair again (because I really fell off with the face masks and deep conditioning), and started making healthier choices when it came to my diet (I get occasional cravings for Popeyes, but I'm a work in progress). I was feeling like myself again. Since I started really focusing on loving myself, so many great things have happened. I found a place to stay in Atlanta, I got into grad school (I barely have a balance God is GREAT), I secured a position with a beauty company, as well as a new internship! God has just truly been working and I am just so grateful. 

   All I can say is, loving yourself first is probably the biggest lesson I have learned in my lifetime. When you don't take the time to love and care for yourself, you create a passage way for self destruction. I am nowhere near perfect, and I know that there are going to be some more bumps in the road to living my best life,  but I love me some Sydney Coffee, and that's all that matters.

Sincerely, 

That Sydney